I cant really recall a "best birthday". I never really made a big deal out of my birthday,the year mom passed I pretty much stopped celebrating them at all. My sister tried to make a big deal out of it the last time I was in Indiana,made me leave the house and then we got Tboned. couple years ago I had the hysterectomy on my birthday and there were complications during the surgery,which resulted in a very painful recovery. Honestly? I think I would say my best birthdays are ones when I dont end up in pain.
Saturday, June 18, 2016
Friday, June 17, 2016
talk about~day 4
4:Talk about the
thing you regret most so far.
I think the closest thing I could honestly say is even in the realm of regret for me would be my first marriage. Even then its only due to who I married and what he did to me. I dont regret the children who stemmed from it or some of the experiences that helped to shape me into who I am today.
talk about ~ day 3
3:Talk about the
person you've had the most intense romantic feelings for.
It was amazing. Despite my ability to be rather verbose, I dont think I could ever accurately describe the feelings accurately. It was intense ,awesome, magical....It was love in its purest most raw form. Kismet if you will.
Thursday, June 16, 2016
talk about ~Day 2
2:Talk about your
first kiss.
My first kiss from a girl happened when I was about 11. I ended up befriending one of the "outcast" kind of girls who was geeky and unpopular cuz of it. We soon became inseparable. One night while having a sleep over (a theme that ended up being a habit for me) we were curled up in bed and she kissed me. It was my first ever kiss but was far from the last. She ended up being my first girlfriend and we were together for almost 2 years before I moved back home almost an hour away
My first kiss from a guy was when I was 14 (technically). He came over to hang out with a bunch of friends of mine from the neighborhood and me. We had known each other for a few years at that point (he was one of the first people I became friends with when I moved back home). He laid across the couch,I was sitting on the floor. He brushed the hair away from my neck and made me jump ( yes my neck was a weakness even then) and when I looked back to tell him to stop that.....he kissed me. He went from best friend to boyfriend in a kiss.....and it only took him from 7th grade art club to sophomore year to get me to say yes and consider dating a guy.
Tuesday, June 14, 2016
Talk about ~Day 1
Talk about the
first time you watched your favorite movie.
My favorite movie.....Ive got alot of favorite movies. Most of them are disney I think lol. I love The Lion King. I have alot of really good memories connected to it.
Anywhere from the first time I watched it (sitting in my living room with my nephew on my lap watching it on VHS while babysitting his rotten ass ) to the friends I made in 7th grade Art club when I came back home that ended up being more then friends (and I ended up with a kid out of the whole situation) to the most recent theatrical release that made John decide he would never take me to see it again (I may have sung every song and possibly even know the whole movie by heart)
I think possibly it might just be my favorite movie.
Monday, June 13, 2016
30 days of kink~Day 30 (FINAL ONE)
Day 30: Whatever BDSM/kink related thing you want to write about.
I run a group and page on FB for the DD/lg lifestyle. I could write tons,share post after post really but instead I thought it better to just share a few links to several posts of my fave blogs on tumblr that might be useful for some of those who read the stuff i write..
45 things a girl wants but wont ask for
50 rules for Daddies
50 things a Caregiver could do for their little!
101 ideas to make Your slave feel Owned (i.e. loved)
Dominants Need Training Also
Things To Help Long Distance Relationships
Long distance relationships. Ways a Dom can be more involved in his submissives daily life.
Ya know what? Even better....Heres the link to the library on that page :)
Library: Long Distance & Online Relationships
Library For Kinksters
I run a group and page on FB for the DD/lg lifestyle. I could write tons,share post after post really but instead I thought it better to just share a few links to several posts of my fave blogs on tumblr that might be useful for some of those who read the stuff i write..
45 things a girl wants but wont ask for
50 rules for Daddies
50 things a Caregiver could do for their little!
101 ideas to make Your slave feel Owned (i.e. loved)
Dominants Need Training Also
Things To Help Long Distance Relationships
Long distance relationships. Ways a Dom can be more involved in his submissives daily life.
Ya know what? Even better....Heres the link to the library on that page :)
Library: Long Distance & Online Relationships
Library For Kinksters
30 days of kink ~day 29
Day 29: Do you have a BDSM title (eg mistress, master, slut, pig, whore, Sir)? What is your opinion of these titles in general?
Im a babygirl submissive who has a bit of a brat and Alpha side. I have been a Domme and have been called Mistress. I personally love titles. It helps to put me in the right mind set and I like having that special name I can call the one I belong to.
Im a babygirl submissive who has a bit of a brat and Alpha side. I have been a Domme and have been called Mistress. I personally love titles. It helps to put me in the right mind set and I like having that special name I can call the one I belong to.
30 days of kink~day 28
Day 28: How do you dress for kink/BDSM play? What significance does your attire have to you?
Depends on what is going to be going on or whatever it is my Daddy wants me to wear. Ive worn everything from various costumes (nurse,school girl,ETC) to simple lingerie . Its really just dependent upon the situation at hand.
Depends on what is going to be going on or whatever it is my Daddy wants me to wear. Ive worn everything from various costumes (nurse,school girl,ETC) to simple lingerie . Its really just dependent upon the situation at hand.
Thursday, June 9, 2016
30 days of kink~ day 27
Day 27: Do your non-kink interests ever find their way into your kinky activities? If so, how?
well yea. Im sorta a huge geek over certain things and tend to be more attracted to those who are as well,which can leak over into the kink side of my life. I guess Im kinda lucky,since it seems alot of my non kink intrests already have a kink following in ways.
well yea. Im sorta a huge geek over certain things and tend to be more attracted to those who are as well,which can leak over into the kink side of my life. I guess Im kinda lucky,since it seems alot of my non kink intrests already have a kink following in ways.
30 days of kink ~ day 26
Day 26: What’s your opinion on online BDSM play?
I think its just another aspect of the dynamic that is beneficial for those who are in a LDR or otherwise can not be with each other 24/7. Its a way to stay close and practice the lifestyle continuously.
I think its just another aspect of the dynamic that is beneficial for those who are in a LDR or otherwise can not be with each other 24/7. Its a way to stay close and practice the lifestyle continuously.
Tuesday, June 7, 2016
30 days of kink~day 25
Day 25: How open are you about your kinks?
Im fairly open about most things. Im open about being poly and bi as well as with any relationships I am in. As for the "darker" side of things, Im only sorta open. Ill wear a collar and not think twice about it,but most things are kept behind closed doors. If Im in the company of others who are like me,thats different but regular every day type situations,I keep it more internal as much as possible.
Im fairly open about most things. Im open about being poly and bi as well as with any relationships I am in. As for the "darker" side of things, Im only sorta open. Ill wear a collar and not think twice about it,but most things are kept behind closed doors. If Im in the company of others who are like me,thats different but regular every day type situations,I keep it more internal as much as possible.
Monday, June 6, 2016
30 days of kink ~ day 24
Day 24: What qualities do you look for in a partner?
Honesty~ without it no relationship would ever last
Loyalty~ even in poly, loyalty still matters as much as honesty
Communication~ I know this sounds kinda weird coming from someone who is as anti social as I am,but as a little/babygirl I need that reassurance that my partner is still there. Besides who doesnt want to hear from people they actually enjoy talking to? lol
Understanding~ Im fucked up. I own it. Dark past leaves dark shit. I need someone who can hold my hand and say "its ok" when I need it but also someone who can kick me in the ass and say "stop that shit" when I need it too. I need them to understand when I need it too,sometimes Im not the best at knowing for myself.
Geeky/nerdy~ Its a weakness. I like 'em nerdy. Always have. Have a thing for glasses too.....Im a weirdo you no judge me :P
Honesty~ without it no relationship would ever last
Loyalty~ even in poly, loyalty still matters as much as honesty
Communication~ I know this sounds kinda weird coming from someone who is as anti social as I am,but as a little/babygirl I need that reassurance that my partner is still there. Besides who doesnt want to hear from people they actually enjoy talking to? lol
Understanding~ Im fucked up. I own it. Dark past leaves dark shit. I need someone who can hold my hand and say "its ok" when I need it but also someone who can kick me in the ass and say "stop that shit" when I need it too. I need them to understand when I need it too,sometimes Im not the best at knowing for myself.
Geeky/nerdy~ Its a weakness. I like 'em nerdy. Always have. Have a thing for glasses too.....Im a weirdo you no judge me :P
30 days of kink ~ day 23 (Im behind a day cuz yesterday was hectic)
Day 23: Since you first developed an interest in kink, have your interests/perspectives changed? How so?
Of course my intrests have changed. Ive discovered what works for me and what doesnt, what I enjoy and what I dont,and things I never even knew about before hand. I think for most people there is a change from the time they first encounter kink to where they are now in the lifestyle. Its an evolution. When I first began exploring the life, I started as a submissive.I then moved on and explored my Domme side,dabbled in some slave ways (and dsicovered SOOOOOOO not a slave) and eventually landed where I am now. An alpha babygirl sub whos part kitty and a tiny part brat *winks*.
Type of Submissive Test
What Kind of Submissive Are You?
Results
Categories
The Acolyte Submissive 64% The Brat Submissive 80% The Cow/Pig Submissive 30%
The Domestic Submissive 90% The Kajira Sub/Slave 75% The Little Submissive 100%
The Novice Submissive 25% The Painslut Submissive 45% The Pet Submissive 72%
The Pseudo Submissive 30% The Warrior Princess Submissive 90%
The Acolyte Submissive. The Acolyte is a disciple, follower, worshipper or priestess, and considers herself a holder of sacred knowledge, a gatekeeper with the keys to her Dominant’s inner sanctum, and a part of a relationship that may transcend even death in a quasi-religious D/s relationship dynamic. In essence, the Lesser God Dominant and his Acolytes create their own private religion. Best matches: The Lesser God Dominant / The White Knight Dominant / The Ineffable Dominant
The Brat Submissive. The brat is a submissive who is generally well-behaved, but has made misbehavior, teasing, and limited kinds of defiance or disobedience an integral part of the D/s dynamic she enjoys with her Dominant, preferably with his full awareness and at least his implied approval. Without the requisite awareness and approval of her Dominant, the more appropriate classification would be the Pseudo-Sub. Best matches: The Daddy/Mommy Dominant / The Tin Pot Dominant
The Cow/Pig Submissive. The Cow or Pig submissive is one who enjoys being treated like a domesticated farm animal, and thrives on humiliation, degradation, and abuse from her Dominant. The relationship dynamic focuses on the real or imagined unattractiveness or worthlessness of the submissive. Cages, crates or pens are typically where the she is most comfortable. Best matches: The Sadistic Dominant / The Gorean Slave Master / The Femdom Mistress.
The Domestic Submissive. Sometimes referred to as a service submissive, she is expected to perform domestic duties such as cooking, cleaning, childcare, chauffeuring, and yard work. The Domestic sub is often expected to be sexually available to the Dominant, and sometimes to his other submissives, friends, or guests. Humiliation role play is quite often a significant part of their dynamic. Best matches: The Sadistic Dominant / The Lesser God Dominant / The FemDom Mistress.
The Kajira Sub/Slave. A female Gorean slave in the tradition of John Norman’s pulp science fiction novels about the planet Gor is referred to as a kajira (plural: kajirae). Kajirae, almost by definition, are typically involved in relationships with Gorean Masters, however it is fairly common to find submissives who have been previously trained as kajirae but are no longer in the Gorean sub-culture and are now involved with other types of Dominants. Even so, it is quite common for certain affectations of the Gorean training to persist. Best matches: The Gorean Slave Master / The Sadistic Dominant / The Ineffable Dominant.
The Little Submissive. A Little is a submissive who finds joy in embracing his or her inner child. This dynamic often involves behaving, speaking, or dressing in a child-like manner or engaging in typical child-appropriate activities, and may or may not involve sex or other adult-appropriate themes and activities. While most Littles and their Mommy or Daddy Doms find age play to be sexually stimulating, there are also many who do not associate being a Little with sex at all. Best match: The Daddy-Mommy Dominant / The White Knight Dominant / The Ineffable Dominant.
The Novice Submissive. The Novice submissive is typically one who has very recently discovered and become excited about the D/s or BDSM lifestyle and has decided that she badly wants to be a part of it at any cost. Unfortunately, this often involves a frenzied and quite often very dangerous quest to find a Master – any Master – as soon as possible. This condition is often referred to as sub frenzy. The Novice submissive is easily spotted in a crowd as the sub who is lecturing anyone who will listen about her version of the “One Twue Way” to live the lifestyle. Best match: The Daddy-Mommy Dominant. Most common, but hardly the best match: The Tin Pot Dominant / The Collector Dominant.
The Painslut Submissive. The Painslut is usually an extreme masochist who enjoys or is aroused by sensations of intense or extreme pain. The Painslut’s primary interest is pain, pure and simple, and the inclusion of the suffix slut is not incidental. Painsluts are often known as much for their sexual promiscuity as they are for their extreme masochism, and they tend to gravitate toward the most sadistic Dominants. Best matches: The Sadistic Dominant / The FemDom Mistress / The Bear Dominant.
The Pet Submissive. A Pet submissive assumes the role of a cherished animal companion to her Dominant, who typically assumes the role of an owner, caretaker, trainer, breeder, or even rider. Pet submissives typically slip in and out of character as needed in order to deal with the more mundane and human aspects of their vanilla lives. The animal personas chosen by Pet submissives generally fall into three categories: kittens, puppies, and ponies. Many Pet Submissives will bristle at the notion that their pet personas are a manifestation of role playing. For many, it is an integral and primary personality characteristic that must be hidden from the vanilla world they have to live in. For those individuals, it is the vanilla façade that they must maintain in public that is the role play. Best matches: The Daddy-Mommy Dominant / The White Knight Dominant / The Ineffable Dominant / The Lesser God Dominant.
The Pseudo Submissive. The pseudo-sub is someone who may be fairly new to the lifestyle and doesn’t quite understand that just because she is a rope-bunny, spankophile, masochist, or bottom, that this doesn’t necessarily make her a submissive. She typically isn’t trying to deceive anyone; it’s all simply the unfortunate but predictable result of erroneously assuming that just because someone is a bottom, she must also be a submissive. The Pseudo-sub likes taking orders from her Dominant, as long as he tells her to do what she would be doing anyway. A pseudo-sub is never wrong. She’s just learning life lessons on her own, the hard way. The Pseudo-sub stands ever-ready to offer her Dominant advice on how to be a better partner. This usually consists of recognizing her bad moods and just not bugging her at those times. Best match: The Tin Pot Dominant / The Collector Dominant.
The Warrior Princess Submissive. is the wicked-smart, strong-willed, uber-competent, ultra-competitive, synergistic, switchy, crusader. She’s no one’s doormat, never a victim. She is a kick-ass submissive for the 21st century. Think: Xena, the Warrior Princess, kneeling at the feet of Hercules. This definitely isn’t a woman in a precarious predicament waiting helplessly for her White Knight to arrive and slay a dragon for her. This was a woman who, as she is kicking the dragon’s ass, smiles at the White Knight standing on the sidelines and says, “Hey, buddy! Feel free to jump right in and lend your sword to this fight. Otherwise, stay the hell out of my way!” The Warrior Princess doesn’t need or want a rescuer. The Warrior Princess needs an ally that she can rely upon in the chaos of battle. She seeks a warrior equal to the tasks that she has already chosen for herself, and is demonstrably capable of accomplishing with, or without, his help. She is willing and able to fight the good fight alone, but welcomes the notion of having a worthy partner, fighting by her side. And yet, when the day’s fighting is done, she is perfectly at ease with considering herself entirely His – heart, might, mind, body, and soul. She is important because she just may be the hope and salvation of this lifestyle. There will come a day, in the not too distant future, when the Warrior Princess Submissive will be forced to become a combatant in a highly politicized war on the BDSM lifestyle. It will be a propaganda war that characterizes all Dominants as abusers and all submissives as victims of abusive and exploitative relationships. When she comes out of the shadows and chooses to fight for this lifestyle instead of against it – as many of her contemporaries will expect her to do – her strong moral compass will reassure those on the sidelines that she is doing what is right and just. Best matches: The Ineffable Dominant / The White Knight Dominant / The Daddy-Mommy Dominant.
Of course my intrests have changed. Ive discovered what works for me and what doesnt, what I enjoy and what I dont,and things I never even knew about before hand. I think for most people there is a change from the time they first encounter kink to where they are now in the lifestyle. Its an evolution. When I first began exploring the life, I started as a submissive.I then moved on and explored my Domme side,dabbled in some slave ways (and dsicovered SOOOOOOO not a slave) and eventually landed where I am now. An alpha babygirl sub whos part kitty and a tiny part brat *winks*.
Type of Submissive Test
What Kind of Submissive Are You?
Results
Categories
The Acolyte Submissive 64% The Brat Submissive 80% The Cow/Pig Submissive 30%
The Domestic Submissive 90% The Kajira Sub/Slave 75% The Little Submissive 100%
The Novice Submissive 25% The Painslut Submissive 45% The Pet Submissive 72%
The Pseudo Submissive 30% The Warrior Princess Submissive 90%
The Acolyte Submissive. The Acolyte is a disciple, follower, worshipper or priestess, and considers herself a holder of sacred knowledge, a gatekeeper with the keys to her Dominant’s inner sanctum, and a part of a relationship that may transcend even death in a quasi-religious D/s relationship dynamic. In essence, the Lesser God Dominant and his Acolytes create their own private religion. Best matches: The Lesser God Dominant / The White Knight Dominant / The Ineffable Dominant
The Brat Submissive. The brat is a submissive who is generally well-behaved, but has made misbehavior, teasing, and limited kinds of defiance or disobedience an integral part of the D/s dynamic she enjoys with her Dominant, preferably with his full awareness and at least his implied approval. Without the requisite awareness and approval of her Dominant, the more appropriate classification would be the Pseudo-Sub. Best matches: The Daddy/Mommy Dominant / The Tin Pot Dominant
The Cow/Pig Submissive. The Cow or Pig submissive is one who enjoys being treated like a domesticated farm animal, and thrives on humiliation, degradation, and abuse from her Dominant. The relationship dynamic focuses on the real or imagined unattractiveness or worthlessness of the submissive. Cages, crates or pens are typically where the she is most comfortable. Best matches: The Sadistic Dominant / The Gorean Slave Master / The Femdom Mistress.
The Domestic Submissive. Sometimes referred to as a service submissive, she is expected to perform domestic duties such as cooking, cleaning, childcare, chauffeuring, and yard work. The Domestic sub is often expected to be sexually available to the Dominant, and sometimes to his other submissives, friends, or guests. Humiliation role play is quite often a significant part of their dynamic. Best matches: The Sadistic Dominant / The Lesser God Dominant / The FemDom Mistress.
The Kajira Sub/Slave. A female Gorean slave in the tradition of John Norman’s pulp science fiction novels about the planet Gor is referred to as a kajira (plural: kajirae). Kajirae, almost by definition, are typically involved in relationships with Gorean Masters, however it is fairly common to find submissives who have been previously trained as kajirae but are no longer in the Gorean sub-culture and are now involved with other types of Dominants. Even so, it is quite common for certain affectations of the Gorean training to persist. Best matches: The Gorean Slave Master / The Sadistic Dominant / The Ineffable Dominant.
The Little Submissive. A Little is a submissive who finds joy in embracing his or her inner child. This dynamic often involves behaving, speaking, or dressing in a child-like manner or engaging in typical child-appropriate activities, and may or may not involve sex or other adult-appropriate themes and activities. While most Littles and their Mommy or Daddy Doms find age play to be sexually stimulating, there are also many who do not associate being a Little with sex at all. Best match: The Daddy-Mommy Dominant / The White Knight Dominant / The Ineffable Dominant.
The Novice Submissive. The Novice submissive is typically one who has very recently discovered and become excited about the D/s or BDSM lifestyle and has decided that she badly wants to be a part of it at any cost. Unfortunately, this often involves a frenzied and quite often very dangerous quest to find a Master – any Master – as soon as possible. This condition is often referred to as sub frenzy. The Novice submissive is easily spotted in a crowd as the sub who is lecturing anyone who will listen about her version of the “One Twue Way” to live the lifestyle. Best match: The Daddy-Mommy Dominant. Most common, but hardly the best match: The Tin Pot Dominant / The Collector Dominant.
The Painslut Submissive. The Painslut is usually an extreme masochist who enjoys or is aroused by sensations of intense or extreme pain. The Painslut’s primary interest is pain, pure and simple, and the inclusion of the suffix slut is not incidental. Painsluts are often known as much for their sexual promiscuity as they are for their extreme masochism, and they tend to gravitate toward the most sadistic Dominants. Best matches: The Sadistic Dominant / The FemDom Mistress / The Bear Dominant.
The Pet Submissive. A Pet submissive assumes the role of a cherished animal companion to her Dominant, who typically assumes the role of an owner, caretaker, trainer, breeder, or even rider. Pet submissives typically slip in and out of character as needed in order to deal with the more mundane and human aspects of their vanilla lives. The animal personas chosen by Pet submissives generally fall into three categories: kittens, puppies, and ponies. Many Pet Submissives will bristle at the notion that their pet personas are a manifestation of role playing. For many, it is an integral and primary personality characteristic that must be hidden from the vanilla world they have to live in. For those individuals, it is the vanilla façade that they must maintain in public that is the role play. Best matches: The Daddy-Mommy Dominant / The White Knight Dominant / The Ineffable Dominant / The Lesser God Dominant.
The Pseudo Submissive. The pseudo-sub is someone who may be fairly new to the lifestyle and doesn’t quite understand that just because she is a rope-bunny, spankophile, masochist, or bottom, that this doesn’t necessarily make her a submissive. She typically isn’t trying to deceive anyone; it’s all simply the unfortunate but predictable result of erroneously assuming that just because someone is a bottom, she must also be a submissive. The Pseudo-sub likes taking orders from her Dominant, as long as he tells her to do what she would be doing anyway. A pseudo-sub is never wrong. She’s just learning life lessons on her own, the hard way. The Pseudo-sub stands ever-ready to offer her Dominant advice on how to be a better partner. This usually consists of recognizing her bad moods and just not bugging her at those times. Best match: The Tin Pot Dominant / The Collector Dominant.
The Warrior Princess Submissive. is the wicked-smart, strong-willed, uber-competent, ultra-competitive, synergistic, switchy, crusader. She’s no one’s doormat, never a victim. She is a kick-ass submissive for the 21st century. Think: Xena, the Warrior Princess, kneeling at the feet of Hercules. This definitely isn’t a woman in a precarious predicament waiting helplessly for her White Knight to arrive and slay a dragon for her. This was a woman who, as she is kicking the dragon’s ass, smiles at the White Knight standing on the sidelines and says, “Hey, buddy! Feel free to jump right in and lend your sword to this fight. Otherwise, stay the hell out of my way!” The Warrior Princess doesn’t need or want a rescuer. The Warrior Princess needs an ally that she can rely upon in the chaos of battle. She seeks a warrior equal to the tasks that she has already chosen for herself, and is demonstrably capable of accomplishing with, or without, his help. She is willing and able to fight the good fight alone, but welcomes the notion of having a worthy partner, fighting by her side. And yet, when the day’s fighting is done, she is perfectly at ease with considering herself entirely His – heart, might, mind, body, and soul. She is important because she just may be the hope and salvation of this lifestyle. There will come a day, in the not too distant future, when the Warrior Princess Submissive will be forced to become a combatant in a highly politicized war on the BDSM lifestyle. It will be a propaganda war that characterizes all Dominants as abusers and all submissives as victims of abusive and exploitative relationships. When she comes out of the shadows and chooses to fight for this lifestyle instead of against it – as many of her contemporaries will expect her to do – her strong moral compass will reassure those on the sidelines that she is doing what is right and just. Best matches: The Ineffable Dominant / The White Knight Dominant / The Daddy-Mommy Dominant.
Saturday, June 4, 2016
30 days of kink-Day 22
Day 22: What do you think is important in keeping a BDSM relationship healthy? How does it differ from a vanilla relationship?
Trust, communication and honesty are all parts of a BDSM realtionship that I believe are important in keeping it healthy. I dont nessarily believe its any different really from a vanilla realtionship,as I feel those are important aspacts in that type as well, but its a bit more imperative to openly discuss what works and what doesnt when it comes to BDSM. You have to trust the person youve given control to not hurt you or cause permanant damage and the only way that can be established is by open communication and complete honesty. Without full trust in a Dom/Daddy/Master/Sir/Top (whichever title fits your situation) letting go enough to find that release/subspace wont happen. Talking about what you like,what you dont and what you want to try are all important so that you are on the same page with limits.
I think the only difference between a BDSM relationship and a vanilla one would be the toys involved ;)
Trust, communication and honesty are all parts of a BDSM realtionship that I believe are important in keeping it healthy. I dont nessarily believe its any different really from a vanilla realtionship,as I feel those are important aspacts in that type as well, but its a bit more imperative to openly discuss what works and what doesnt when it comes to BDSM. You have to trust the person youve given control to not hurt you or cause permanant damage and the only way that can be established is by open communication and complete honesty. Without full trust in a Dom/Daddy/Master/Sir/Top (whichever title fits your situation) letting go enough to find that release/subspace wont happen. Talking about what you like,what you dont and what you want to try are all important so that you are on the same page with limits.
I think the only difference between a BDSM relationship and a vanilla one would be the toys involved ;)
Friday, June 3, 2016
30 days of kink~Day 21
Day 21: Favourite BDSM related book (fiction or non-fiction).
So this one.....
Well I read,alot and rather rapidly as anyone who knows me can attest. So while this is a short list, it is in NO way a complete one or even remotely close to all that Ive read and enjoyed in regards to lifestyle based books.
Sm101~really good and informative.
Screw the roses,give me the thorns~ one of my faves,naturally
Different loving ~ was a good read
Sleeping Beauty series~ kinda drug on for me but overall was really good.One of my first intros into Pet Play ;)
Come Hither~Very good for general BDSM information
When someone you love is kinky~ good read as well.
As I said not a complete list but several that Ive read and enjoyed. Ive read some that were shit and some that should have never been published much less made into a movie series (Yes I am looking at you 50 shades of shit) ,but that would be for a different post (that I know Ive written already before)
So this one.....
Well I read,alot and rather rapidly as anyone who knows me can attest. So while this is a short list, it is in NO way a complete one or even remotely close to all that Ive read and enjoyed in regards to lifestyle based books.
Sm101~really good and informative.
Screw the roses,give me the thorns~ one of my faves,naturally
Different loving ~ was a good read
Sleeping Beauty series~ kinda drug on for me but overall was really good.One of my first intros into Pet Play ;)
Come Hither~Very good for general BDSM information
When someone you love is kinky~ good read as well.
As I said not a complete list but several that Ive read and enjoyed. Ive read some that were shit and some that should have never been published much less made into a movie series (Yes I am looking at you 50 shades of shit) ,but that would be for a different post (that I know Ive written already before)
Thursday, June 2, 2016
30 days of kink ~day 20 (and now im caught up!)
Day 20: Talk about something within kink/bdsm that you’re curious about/don’t understand.
I guess probably diapers. Im not judging I just dont understand the appeal. As a mom, I hated changing diapers, so I dont understand why anyone would find it intriguing as an adult. I mean to each their own, I just dont understand it. *shrugs*
I guess probably diapers. Im not judging I just dont understand the appeal. As a mom, I hated changing diapers, so I dont understand why anyone would find it intriguing as an adult. I mean to each their own, I just dont understand it. *shrugs*
30 days of Kink ~ Day 19
Day 19: Any unexpected ways kink has improved your life? If so, what are they?
Its helped me to fully form who I am and helped me to embrace it. Its helped me to heal from past traumas and move on to be a better person. Its helped me to learn to love myself and all of my flaws(cuz yea, theres alot). Its helped me understand that its ok Im still childlike in some ways,that is what being a babygirl is. Its ok that I cant "Adult" sometimes, that there is someone there who can pick it up and do it for me or help me to get it done.. Its helped me become me.
Its helped me to fully form who I am and helped me to embrace it. Its helped me to heal from past traumas and move on to be a better person. Its helped me to learn to love myself and all of my flaws(cuz yea, theres alot). Its helped me understand that its ok Im still childlike in some ways,that is what being a babygirl is. Its ok that I cant "Adult" sometimes, that there is someone there who can pick it up and do it for me or help me to get it done.. Its helped me become me.
30 days of kink ~day 18
Day 18: Any kinky/BDSM pet peeves? If so, what are they?
Assumptions~ Just cuz you see or hear that I am a babygirl,dont assume I am stupid or unable to do things for myself. the vast majority of the time that this has happened Ive found that my intelligence superceded the other party's by a vast amount.
Domly Doms~ Just cuz you gave yourself a title, doesnt mean shit to me. Im not your girl,sub,princess,sweetheart or baby. I will rip you apart if you call me as such just because you see Im a submissive and you claim to be a Dom. For me thats a title given to the one Ive chosen to submit to,whos collar I wear proudly and the majority of the time, Ill have made you cry well before you can go to him and tell him how mean I was to you.
Velcro Collars.~Again this is my opinion and take it for what you will. A collar is a serious commitment. Its not something that should be taken lightly or tossed aside like trash. Its a symbol of a bond,a commitment,of love. The girls (and guys) who ive seen jump from collar to collar like they have ADHD annoy the hell out of me. Its as if they dont take that commitment seriously. As if there are not real attachments/emotions/ relationship aspects placed into that collar. In the same vein, the Dom types who collar 35 girls back to back to back cuz they get bored with the one they have then wonder why the collars never last.Submissives arent pokemon, you really dont have to catch them all.
Assumptions~ Just cuz you see or hear that I am a babygirl,dont assume I am stupid or unable to do things for myself. the vast majority of the time that this has happened Ive found that my intelligence superceded the other party's by a vast amount.
Domly Doms~ Just cuz you gave yourself a title, doesnt mean shit to me. Im not your girl,sub,princess,sweetheart or baby. I will rip you apart if you call me as such just because you see Im a submissive and you claim to be a Dom. For me thats a title given to the one Ive chosen to submit to,whos collar I wear proudly and the majority of the time, Ill have made you cry well before you can go to him and tell him how mean I was to you.
Velcro Collars.~Again this is my opinion and take it for what you will. A collar is a serious commitment. Its not something that should be taken lightly or tossed aside like trash. Its a symbol of a bond,a commitment,of love. The girls (and guys) who ive seen jump from collar to collar like they have ADHD annoy the hell out of me. Its as if they dont take that commitment seriously. As if there are not real attachments/emotions/ relationship aspects placed into that collar. In the same vein, the Dom types who collar 35 girls back to back to back cuz they get bored with the one they have then wonder why the collars never last.Submissives arent pokemon, you really dont have to catch them all.
30 days of kink ~ day 17
Day 17: What misconception about kinky people would you most like to clear up?
We're not all deviants. The vast majority of us are upstanding memebers of society whom you interact with on a daily basis. Not all of us have hugely damaged pasts,some have come from perfect homes and backgrounds but have found aspects of this lifestyle to be what was missing. We are members of families, both by blood and by creation. We are normal people,we just enjoy kinky stuff and there is nothing wrong with that.
We're not all deviants. The vast majority of us are upstanding memebers of society whom you interact with on a daily basis. Not all of us have hugely damaged pasts,some have come from perfect homes and backgrounds but have found aspects of this lifestyle to be what was missing. We are members of families, both by blood and by creation. We are normal people,we just enjoy kinky stuff and there is nothing wrong with that.
30 days of kink ~ Day 16
Day 16: What are the most difficult aspects of having a sexuality that involves kink or BDSM for you personally?
Not being able to find those who Im compatiable with or even attracted to and have them any where near me. Almost everytime I have met or found anyone that was remotely near anything I was interested in,they were either on the other side of the world or I wasnt attactive enough for them.Ive also struggled with having desires and wants but my partner not embracing them or even wanting to explore them. Its a bitch to say the least.
Not being able to find those who Im compatiable with or even attracted to and have them any where near me. Almost everytime I have met or found anyone that was remotely near anything I was interested in,they were either on the other side of the world or I wasnt attactive enough for them.Ive also struggled with having desires and wants but my partner not embracing them or even wanting to explore them. Its a bitch to say the least.
30 days of kink~ day 15
Day 15: Post a BDSM/kink activity you’re curious about and would like to try.
There are actually quite a few,but for the sake of anyone who actually bothers to read any of this Ill just name a few.
Ive always been intrigued by spreader bars and want to try them. Tails are another thing that has had me curious and is something I want to try. Ive not had the opportunity to use one as of yet. Harnesses ,more intricate bondage, and quite a few more. I want to try many many things just to find out what I do and dont enjoy.
There are actually quite a few,but for the sake of anyone who actually bothers to read any of this Ill just name a few.
Ive always been intrigued by spreader bars and want to try them. Tails are another thing that has had me curious and is something I want to try. Ive not had the opportunity to use one as of yet. Harnesses ,more intricate bondage, and quite a few more. I want to try many many things just to find out what I do and dont enjoy.
30 days of kink ~Day 14
Day 14: How would you say real life BDSM/kink varies from fantasy BDSM/kink? If you haven’t experienced real life BDSM/kink how do you think it might differ?
Well with fantasy the sky is the limit really. Real life has limitations. Sound carries pretty far for example.Each body is different and not all can take what the bodies in Fantasy BDSM can take. Not to mention not all those involved in Real life are as fit/buff/beautiful as you tend to see in Fantasy BDSM scenes.
Well with fantasy the sky is the limit really. Real life has limitations. Sound carries pretty far for example.Each body is different and not all can take what the bodies in Fantasy BDSM can take. Not to mention not all those involved in Real life are as fit/buff/beautiful as you tend to see in Fantasy BDSM scenes.
30 days of kink ~day 13
Day 13: Explain as best you can what the appeal of kink/BDSM is to you? Why are you drawn to what you’re drawn to?
What first appealed to me was the control. Giving someone I could trust the most ultimate form of control to keep me safe and loved. Knowing they would make the right choices for me,keep me under control and make sure I did what Im supposed to,cuz frankly Im not good at any of that. I need the rules,I crave the structure.I self identify as a babygirl. Babygirls when left to their own devices tend to reek havoc, or at least thats how it is in my case.
(Im aware I sorta stopped writing these daily for a few days. RL reared its extremely ugly head so I will be making them up now. Sorry in advance for the repeated blog postings.)
What first appealed to me was the control. Giving someone I could trust the most ultimate form of control to keep me safe and loved. Knowing they would make the right choices for me,keep me under control and make sure I did what Im supposed to,cuz frankly Im not good at any of that. I need the rules,I crave the structure.I self identify as a babygirl. Babygirls when left to their own devices tend to reek havoc, or at least thats how it is in my case.
(Im aware I sorta stopped writing these daily for a few days. RL reared its extremely ugly head so I will be making them up now. Sorry in advance for the repeated blog postings.)
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